{"product_id":"shameful-silence-what-you-dont-know-about-domestic-violence-hardback-9781394430277","title":"Shameful Silence; What You Don't Know About Domestic Violence (Hardback) 9781394430277","description":"\u003cfont face=\"Georgia\"\u003e\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"6\"\u003eShameful Silence\u003c\/font\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\r\n\u003cfont size=\"5\"\u003eWhat You Don't Know About Domestic Violence\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cp\u003e\"Powerful, passionate, and meticulously researched, \u003ci\u003eShameful Silence\u003c\/i\u003e is both an indictment of our current systems and a roadmap for creating a more equitable future where all victims receive the support they deserve.\"\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Nathan Maynard,\u003c\/b\u003e youth worker, educator, speaker, and author of \u003ci\u003eThe Science of Discipline\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Lozano brings together solid research, powerful personal stories, and sharp legal insight to shine a light on a hidden epidemic. This book doesn’t just inform—it shifts how we understand intimate partner violence and challenges us to see it more clearly and compassionately.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Eli Weinstein,\u003c\/b\u003e LCSW, author of\u003ci\u003e From I Do to We Do\u003c\/i\u003e and host of \u003ci\u003eThe Dude Therapist\u003c\/i\u003e podcast\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Eye-opening and urgent,\u003ci\u003e Shameful Silence \u003c\/i\u003eexposes the hidden costs of our gendered assumptions about violence and offers a compelling vision for a more inclusive approach to supporting all survivors.\"\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Sylvia Kalicinski\u003c\/b\u003e, PhD, LMFT, therapist, speaker, host of\u003ci\u003e The Dr. Sylvia K Show \u003c\/i\u003epodcast\u003ci\u003e, \u003c\/i\u003eand author of\u003ci\u003e Lonely AF\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"With compassion and clarity, Lozano illuminates the silent suffering of countless men and provides a roadmap for systemic change. \u003ci\u003eShameful Silence \u003c\/i\u003eis\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003ea must-read for anyone committed to ending domestic violence in all its forms.\"\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e \u003cb\u003e—\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eKatie Hurley, LCSW\u003c\/b\u003e, child and adolescent psychotherapist, parenting educator, public speaker, and author of\u003ci\u003e Breaking the Boy Code\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"4\"\u003eAlexandra Lozano (Author)\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003e9781394430277, Wiley\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003eHardback, published 25 May 2026\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003e240 pages\u003cbr\u003e23.1 x 15.8 x 2.3 cm, 0.408 kg\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\u003cp align=\"justify\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eBreak the silence surrounding male victims of domestic abuse and challenge harmful stereotypes\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSociety has a blind spot — and one in three men are paying the price. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMillions of men experience domestic abuse. Yet their suffering is routinely dismissed, minimized, or outright denied. Trapped by shame, stigma, and cultural myths about masculinity, they endure abuse in silence. Often, they lack the language to describe their experiences and face systems unwilling to protect them. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eShameful Silence\u003c\/i\u003e, Human Rights attorney Alexandra Lozano exposes the hidden epidemic of male domestic abuse. With unflinching honesty, legal precision, and deep compassion, Lozano draws on sixteen years of frontline experience to advocate for vulnerable individuals in complex legal systems. She reveals a vital truth few confront: abuse can devastate without leaving bruises. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThrough survivor accounts and rigorous research, this book reveals sophisticated, often invisible tactics used against men, including gaslighting, financial control, parental alienation, false allegations, and using custody battles and immigration status as weapons. These abuses leave no visible scars yet dismantle identity, isolate victims, and destroy lives. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBlending legal insight, psychological research, and deeply human storytelling, \u003ci\u003eShameful Silence\u003c\/i\u003e challenges entrenched stereotypes about victimhood and masculinity. Lozano reframes strength not as silence but as truth. She offers readers clarity and validation that so many male survivors have never received. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn this book, readers will discover: \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eFirst-hand accounts from male survivors\u003c\/b\u003e that illuminate emotional, psychological, financial, and physical abuse patterns often ignored or mischaracterized\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eExpert analysis of systemic failures\u003c\/b\u003e within law enforcement, family courts, and healthcare systems that leave male victims unprotected\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003ePractical guidance\u003c\/b\u003e for recognizing abuse, setting boundaries, seeking support, and beginning the healing process\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eResources and organizations\u003c\/b\u003e specifically equipped to support male survivors of domestic violence.\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eHow to advocate for specific reforms\u003c\/b\u003e—whether by contacting lawmakers, supporting organizations for male survivors, or challenging bias in their professional spheres—to ensure protection and equity for all victims.\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eShameful Silence\u003c\/i\u003e is essential reading for male survivors seeking validation and a way forward. It is also vital for legal, healthcare, and education professionals, as well as social workers and advocates seeking deeper insight into non-physical abuse and institutional blind spots. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis book expands our definition of abuse and challenges societal beliefs. It offers a blueprint for a world where every survivor is seen, heard, and protected.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003e\u003cp\u003eIntroduction xi\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 1: The Hidden Epidemic 1\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA Brief History of Violence (and Indifference) 4\u003cbr\u003eWhat We Talk About When We Talk About Violence 8\u003cbr\u003eWhat Is Domestic Violence? 10\u003cbr\u003eEmotional and Psychological Abuse 10\u003cbr\u003eOther Types of Domestic Abuse 13\u003cbr\u003eFinancial and Economic Abuse 14\u003cbr\u003eAdministrative Abuse 16\u003cbr\u003eFalse Allegations 17\u003cbr\u003eParental Alienation 18\u003cbr\u003eStalking 19\u003cbr\u003eWhy Men Stay Silent 20\u003cbr\u003eFear and Stigma 21\u003cbr\u003eDenial of Victimhood 23\u003cbr\u003eDistrust of Broken Systems 25\u003cbr\u003eReframing the Narrative 27\u003cbr\u003eUnlearning False Narratives 29\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 2: Recognizing the Signs of Domestic Violence Against Men 31\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTristan 32\u003cbr\u003eMichael 40\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 3: Why Do Men Stay? 49\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFailure to Recognize the Abuse as Abuse 50\u003cbr\u003eVulnerability Biting: Eroding Self-Esteem 52\u003cbr\u003eLearned Helplessness 53\u003cbr\u003eLack of Resources and Safe Spaces 56\u003cbr\u003eThe Myth of Masculinity 58\u003cbr\u003eThe Myth of the Male Protector 58\u003cbr\u003eCommunity Pressure 59\u003cbr\u003eFalse Allegations 61\u003cbr\u003eFear of Losing Their Children 64\u003cbr\u003eFear of Deportation 67\u003cbr\u003eTrauma Bond 71\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 4: Shame: The Myths of Masculinity and Why Our Culture Hides Violence Against Men 75\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eShame and Guilt: What's the Difference? 78\u003cbr\u003eHow Shame Impacts Men 81\u003cbr\u003eShame Silences Men 82\u003cbr\u003eShame Forces Men to Uphold a Façade 83\u003cbr\u003eThe Façade for the LGBTQ+ Community 84\u003cbr\u003eThe Façades of Morality and Masculinity 85\u003cbr\u003eThe \"Normal\" Façade 86\u003cbr\u003eHow Shame Protects the Perpetrator 87\u003cbr\u003eHow Partners Leverage Shame 88\u003cbr\u003eHow Shame and Masculinity Are Linked 90\u003cbr\u003e\"Man Up\" 91\u003cbr\u003eAre We Biased Against Men or Masculinity?\u003cbr\u003eBiological Sex Versus Gender Expression 94\u003cbr\u003eMyths of Masculinity and What It Means to Be a Man 95\u003cbr\u003eMyth 1: Men Can't Be Victims 96\u003cbr\u003eMyth 2: A Real Man Can Defend Himself 97\u003cbr\u003eMyth 3: Emotional Abuse Isn't Really Abuse 99\u003cbr\u003eMyth 4: Only the Weak Get Abused 101\u003cbr\u003eMyth 5: It's Less Harmful When a Woman Is the Perpetrator 103\u003cbr\u003eMyth 6: Men Always Want Sex 104\u003cbr\u003eMyth 7: If He Stays, He's Partly to Blame 107\u003cbr\u003eRedefining Masculinity 109\u003cbr\u003eHow Should We Define a Man? 109\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 5: Obstacles to Reporting\/Reframing Violence 111\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Biases in Screening for IPV 112\u003cbr\u003eGender Discrimination in Funding 119\u003cbr\u003eThe Violence Against Women Act: Did It Break Barriers or Build Walls? 125\u003cbr\u003eThe Feminists' Role 131\u003cbr\u003eHow Can We Reframe? 137\u003cbr\u003eStep 1: Rewrite the Narrative 137\u003cbr\u003eStep 2: Promote Resources 139\u003cbr\u003eStep 3: Continue Educating 140\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 6: A Broken System 143\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMandatory Arrest Laws: What Are They? Where Did They Come From? 147\u003cbr\u003eThe Story of Tracy Thurman 150\u003cbr\u003eHow Police Fail Men 156\u003cbr\u003ePolice Are More Likely to Blame Men 159\u003cbr\u003ePolice Question Men's Credibility 160\u003cbr\u003ePolice Fail to Recognize Emotional Abuse 161\u003cbr\u003ePolice Fall for False Allegations 163\u003cbr\u003eHow Are Police Officers Trained? 166\u003cbr\u003eBias in the Criminal Justice System 169\u003cbr\u003eHow Courts Fail Men 175\u003cbr\u003eMen Are Treated More Severely 175\u003cbr\u003eHow to Prove Emotional Abuse 176\u003cbr\u003eCourts Are Biased Against Fathers 177\u003cbr\u003eWhat Does Progress Look Like? 178\u003cbr\u003eWe Need to Acknowledge Male Victims 178\u003cbr\u003eWe Need More Training for Cops 179\u003cbr\u003eWe Need More Resources for Male Victims 179\u003cbr\u003eWe Need More Research 180\u003cbr\u003eWe Must Acknowledge That Women Can Be Perpetrators of Violence, Too 181\u003cbr\u003eCourts and Police Must Find Ways to Recognize Emotional Abuse 182\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 7: Breaking the Silence, Beginning to Heal 183\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Story of Bernie Fitte 184\u003cbr\u003eHow Do Men Heal? 186\u003cbr\u003eLet Go of Unrealistic Hope 187\u003cbr\u003eStop Trying to \"Fix\" Them 188\u003cbr\u003eDon't Just Set Boundaries, Enforce Them 189\u003cbr\u003eGo No Contact 190\u003cbr\u003eStop Hiding 192\u003cbr\u003eFind Support 192\u003cbr\u003eTry to Love Again ... 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