{"product_id":"gripes-hardback-9780745643618","title":"Gripes (Hardback) 9780745643618","description":"\u003cfont face=\"Georgia\"\u003e\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"6\"\u003eGripes\u003c\/font\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"4\"\u003eJean-Claude Kaufmann (Author), Helen Morrison (Translated by)\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003e9780745643618, Polity Press\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003eHardback, published 30 October 2009\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003e224 pages\u003cbr\u003e23.6 x 16 x 2.3 cm, 0.481 kg\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\u003cp align=\"justify\"\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003e\"Kaufmann is a wise and clever microsociologist, inspired by Erving Goffman, by fashion magazines, and by kittenish and cougarish women. He is the voice of the annoyed, the vexed, the fearful, and the comforted.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eContemporary Sociology\u003c\/b\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\"Living in an increasingly detraditionalised world opens up glorious new opportunities for individual autonomy and self-realisation. It also creates unprecedented pressures on long-term relationships. Kaufmann\u003cbr\u003e brilliantly captures this paradox of life in late modernity, analysing the seemingly limitless sources of mutual irritation in everyday life, as well as spouses' inventive revenge and peacemaking tactics.\"\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Véronique Mottier, \u003ci\u003eJesus College, Cambridge \u0026amp; University of Lausanne\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Jean-Claude Kaufman's \u003ci\u003eGripes\u003c\/i\u003e is one of those rare books that brings into focus a seemingly unimportant fact of life. Irritation and the slow abrasive effect of the gripes it causes are sands that grind down the gears of relationships. Behavioral scientists and self-help advisers make so much of the powerful passions. Kaufman brilliantly illuminates the simpler forces of social disruption.\"\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Charles C. Lemert, author of \u003ci\u003eMuhammad Ali: Trickster in the Culture of Irony\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp align=\"justify\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003eWe all know what it's like to be annoyed by little things that our husband, wife or partner does – leaving the cap off the toothpaste tube, leaving the toilet lid up, leaving dirty clothes on the floor – and we know how easily these little grievances of everyday life can spin out of control. In this brilliant new book the sociologist Jean-Claude Kaufmann shows us how and why sparks can suddenly fly even in the most well-adjusted couples.  \u003cp\u003eThey see themselves as being in total harmony but they are mistaken! The clash between their uniquely individual attitudes to life rumbles on in silence until suddenly erupting in emotional outbursts each time an object or an attitude reveals for the thousandth time the unbearable and incomprehensible otherness of the partner.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhen this occurs, a whole panoply of tactics is deployed, ranging from the combative (secret acts of revenge) through the neutral (sulking) to the subtly loving. But these stormy episodes within relationships can have a happy ending, for it is through learning to overcome these irritations and aggravations that love is ultimately strengthened.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003eIntroduction\u003cbr\u003e PART ONE : 1 + 1 = 4\u003cbr\u003e 1. The conjugal adventure\u003cbr\u003e Domestic emotions\u003cbr\u003e 1 + 1 = 1?\u003cbr\u003e Sparks start to fly\u003cbr\u003e The comfort zone\u003cbr\u003e Doubly irritating objects\u003cbr\u003e Key episodes  \u003cp\u003e2. Men and women - different or complementary?\u003cbr\u003e The different approaches\u003cbr\u003e Glitches\u003cbr\u003e Are men less irritated?\u003cbr\u003e Irritated by a spectre\u003cbr\u003e Millions of Peter Pans?\u003cbr\u003e Stubborn macho reactions\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePART TWO : IN THE EYE OF THE STORM\u003cbr\u003e 3. The causes\u003cbr\u003e The symbolic toothpaste tube\u003cbr\u003e Forced proximity\u003cbr\u003e A waltz in double time\u003cbr\u003e Traces of the self\u003cbr\u003e Money matters\u003cbr\u003e Secret worlds\u003cbr\u003e Too close\u003cbr\u003e Too distant\u003cbr\u003e 4. The mechanics\u003cbr\u003e The list\u003cbr\u003e Crystallisation\u003cbr\u003e Letting off steam\u003cbr\u003e Aspects of identity\u003cbr\u003e ‘Passion killers' and the magic of love\u003cbr\u003e Confused feelings\u003cbr\u003e A certain notion of the truth\u003cbr\u003e Dissonance\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5. The wider picture\u003cbr\u003e Family baggage\u003cbr\u003e «Mummy's boy»\u003cbr\u003e «That slut»\u003cbr\u003e Inattentiveness and humiliation\u003cbr\u003e Dissatisfaction\u003cbr\u003e Disgust\u003cbr\u003e Pathological irritability\u003cbr\u003e Aggravating social circumstances\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePART THREE : SMALL ACTS OF REVENGE AND ROMANTIC TACTICS\u003cbr\u003e 6. Communication difficulties\u003cbr\u003e An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth\u003cbr\u003e Hot and cold\u003cbr\u003e The language of gestures\u003cbr\u003e The use of laughter\u003cbr\u003e Inside the mind of the irritator\u003cbr\u003e Secret acts of revenge\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e7. Love's secret ways\u003cbr\u003e Minuscule victories\u003cbr\u003e The about-turn\u003cbr\u003e When irritation melts away\u003cbr\u003e Physical therapy\u003cbr\u003e Judicious use of sulking\u003cbr\u003e Seeing reason\u003cbr\u003e Reframing the scene\u003cbr\u003e The little cinema and voice off\u003cbr\u003e Accentuating the positive\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eConclusion\u003cbr\u003e Methodological Appendix\u003cbr\u003e A new research technique\u003cbr\u003e My direct correspondents\u003cbr\u003e A research project cannot be emptied out like a bag\u003cbr\u003e My other sources\u003cbr\u003e # Bibliography\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cfont size=\"3\"\u003eSubject Areas: Sociology \u0026amp; anthropology [\u003ca title=\"See our other books on Sociology \u0026amp; anthropology\" href=\"https:\/\/freshlyprintedbooks.co.uk\/search?q=%22Sociology%20\u0026amp;%20anthropology%20%5BJH%5D%22\"\u003eJH\u003c\/a\u003e]\u003c\/font\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\r\n\r\n\r\n\u003c\/font\u003e","brand":"Polity","offers":[{"title":"Brand New","offer_id":52407311106328,"sku":"9780745643618","price":45.76,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0730\/2037\/5320\/files\/9780745643618.jpg?v=1784160827","url":"https:\/\/freshlyprintedbooks.co.uk\/products\/gripes-hardback-9780745643618","provider":"Freshly Printed Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}